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Striving for Perfection


While reading the book “Lessons Learned – Loving your work” ,  I came across this article from Peggy Fleming, who was a Olympic Figure Skating Gold Medallist. 

As a student, I know this is a very difficult value proposition to follow. But read on- we will come to the point.

I quote-

“What that instilled in me was to practice perfection. Every time I skated and had a lesson from my coach, I tried to think of a performance- I tried to think of the crowd. I tried to think of how that pressure would feel. I actually came up with a game that I did at every lesson: I would try to do a perfect lesson.  That made it even more difficult; I didn’t want to make one mistake in the hour I had with my coach. It was fun. I think he respected that to: and it was fun for him to have a student who was giving it her all at a practice. 

What I learned was that practicing perfection, not cheating yourself, is the best way to go through life.

Even today, when I go for a run, I hear that little voice in my head saying, “I have committed to this hour. I am going to keep running the whole time. If I stop, I am cheating, and I’m not getting the benefit out of this. I’m only cheating myself”.

I obviously was very impressed with this article.

And I suspect most of us don’t go on to win gold medals in the Olympics because of this single attitude gap! (maybe there is a talent gap as well – but hey, we don’t know that)

As students, you are very well poised to take advantage of your position to put in that extra effort – every day to make a difference.

From where I stand, I wish I had someone to tell me that at that time (I can see you roll your eyes and say  – that is what my parents tell me all the time Smile) but, it is true.

Instead of doing everything in one lot, start making small changes- everyday.

If there are any questions that you can spend that extra 5 minutes time on so that you are perfect, go do it before you call it a day.

Spend time preparing for your classes before the classes actually happen- and see how much more you get from it. Help your teacher help you get the best out of yourself.  

If you are preparing for exams- this is what you do-

– Ensure that you have everything listed out that you are going to read

– Ensure that you actually spend the time as listed out by you- focusing and giving your 100% studying & preparing

– Move onto the next topic end of the timeline you have set- irrespective of where you are- but make a commitment to come back and finish it completely. 

– Ensure you actually complete all the work without fail.

By following your own guidelines, you build a level of respect for yourself- and set yourself up for a gold medal in the future.

Communication with God…


For each of you to understand!

How to look at the opportunities in life.


I asked for Strength………
And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for Wisdom………
And God gave me Problems to solve.

I asked for Prosperity………
And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.

I asked for Courage………
And God gave me Danger to overcome.

I asked for Love………
And God gave me Troubled people to help.

I asked for Favors………
And God gave me Opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted ……..
I received everything I needed!



This is a beautiful story of why it is important to let every child evolve on their own- and allow them the space and time to build their strengths – so that they can fly effectively.  Big lesson for all parents out there!

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.

We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly!

The 2 critical elements to succeed wildly in life (for your kids as well)


Studies can be one of the most monotonous activities a child can undergo! I remember my times as a kid, who would do anything in my power to avoid studies :) Of course, I got away with anything, because my parents rarely knew what I was up to.  Looking back, I think of all the time, that I could have utilized, if only, I had the two key elements that are critical to succeed –

  1. Positive Self Esteem – Self –esteem is the single most important criteria to succeed. I am yet to meet someone who succeeded brilliantly despite having a very low self esteem.  A well developed, positive self esteem, drives the second most critical element to succeed
  2. Positive Outlook – A positive outlook, that is drives the student to achieve more great things for themselves in the future.

Alas, for most of us in my generation, there were very few guides, role-models or books to help us focus our energies! This generation, on the other hand, has a multitude of offerings to help the children do better- in various ways.

With a positive spirit, (and with the right guidance), the child can create the best models possible to succeed.

As a parent, you can focus on providing the child with a positive self-esteem & a positive outlook on anything – and the rest of the success will surely follow!